Doc’s Thoughts

This is a bit of different weekly post. This one is a roundup of previous writing I’ve done around the New Year. But first, if you didn’t read the holiday posts on love, peace, and joy.

Last week, I talked about how curiosity can be the engine of change.

Turns out, I’ve written about New Years (and New Years adjacent) topics quite a bit. Rather than do another post, I thought I’d dust off the archive a bit. Here’s a bit of a round-up:

Setting intentions rather than goals as we look ahead to 2026.
Organizing our goals into how we spend our time, rather than things we want to accomplish
We are never really fully formed. Change is a never-ending process.
Noticing the gap between where we are now, where we want to be, and what gets in the way of closing it.
As we think about what we want the new year to look like, recognize that whatever we practice becomes easier.
Lazy is not what’s holding us back.
There are many things to fear. We should fear stagnation more than failure.
If we do have goals, we might need to pay more attention to the process of how to get there.
It can be difficult to set goals that both help us stretch and are realistic. Consider setting ABC goals.
As you think about what to make of the new year, consider your future self
I’ve also written about thinking about the New Year in terms of what we will learn, rather than what you will accomplish.
Consider the time scale of the problems you are thinking about will take to fix.
Not sure what to make of all this direction setting? Fair enough. Consider just the next right step.
Feeling stuck with only two options? There are always more than two.
Maybe it’s less about figuring out what needs to change, and more about identifying what’s working.

Happy Reading!

Love,

Doc

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