Every week, Dr. Justin Altschuler writes a post that provides new insight and perspective into the familiar parts of life, helping readers live a healthy, happy, meaningful life.
Independent and Interdependent
Quick Summary: Independence is not an absolute to chase, it is an idea on a spectrum. When we pursue independence to the extreme, we forget the reality of our interdependence. In our society, we prize our independence. It holds cultural and historical importance for us, we value it highly. We often view it as a core aspect of our identity— both individually and collectively. We have to stand on our own two feet, be our own person, do it my way… the list goes on. We place a premium on personal freedom, self-reliance, and self-determination. As we think about and celebrate our independence, we take pride in the idea that, individually and collectively, we are the masters of our own destiny. Independence is closely related to freedom and liberty, is is the opposite of bondage, tyranny, and a lack of self-determination. We think of independence as an unalloyed good to pursue as far as possible, but in fact, it might be more helpful to think of independence as a spectrum. If bondage lies at one extreme, what lies at the other end? Extremes are often unhappy places, so the other end of the independence spectrum might be loneliness. If one end is an over-reliance on others, the other end might be total detachment from others. Being completely independent from others, from the world around us, from our community is an existence filled with misery, poor health, and isolation. Just as bondage is built on the mistaken belief that some of us are inherently more worthy than others, absolute independence is based on a fantasy that we can exist without each other. For the entire history of our species, we have been dependent on each other. From our earliest days as a hunter-gatherers (even as primates) we thrived as social creatures, as a part of a group. We perished when alone. Communication, and the ability to form complex societies is one of our superpowers as a species. A lack of other humans (exile from the community) was literally a death sentence. We are interdependent. Interdependence was true one hundred thousand years ago, it was true one thousand years ago, and it is true today. As I sit here and write this, I depend on others for the electricity that powers my house, the water that comes out of my faucet, and the food I eat. We have taken steps to increase our independence (growing a garden, installing solar), but even so, we cannot escape the fact that we depend on others. The fact that our existence depends on others, and is influenced by others, can make us feel vulnerable and insecure. When wildfires burn hundreds of miles away, the smoke impacts our breathing. When the happiness of the people we live with and love is decreased, our happiness falls. Our economy, our technology, our food systems, our environment— its all interdependent. When we pretend that we are independent from each other, we make choices that cause our fellow humans to suffer. The reality of our interdependence often makes us uncomfortable. And yet, if we embrace this reality, it can shift our perspective. If we can recognize that we rely on others (and that others rely on us!), if we acknowledge that our actions impact others, and that the actions of others impact us, perhaps we can start to treat each other with more humanity and respect. We can realize that the happiness of our neighbor is related to our own happiness, we can conduct ourselves with a broader perspective. Independence is not an absolute to be pursued, it is an idea that lies on a spectrum— a spectrum where misery lives at both extremes. We must combine the idea of independence and taking responsibility for our own lives with the recognition that we existentially depend on others. . Our pursuit of independence can take us too far, straight into the arms of isolation. The loneliness we face as individuals and as a society is directly related to our fear of the idea of interdependence and our pursuit of unhealthy extremes. Let’s celebrate our independence without forgetting that we are interdependent. -Dr. Justin Share Doc’s Thoughts If you enjoyed today’s newsletter, share it with your friends and family! |
Doc’s Thoughts
Every week, Dr. Justin Altschuler writes a post that provides new insight and perspective into the familiar parts of life, helping readers live a healthy, happy, meaningful life.
Doc’s Thoughts We are often told that time is our most precious commodity. The message is that, regardless of how much money we make, we are all limited by the time we have on this planet. The Stoics have a phrase to remind us of this, memento mori—remember death—which highlights the fact that our time is limited. The Buddhists have a saying that we are to meditate on death five times per day. These are not meant to be morbid injunctions, but are intended to focus our minds on the fact that...
Doc’s Thoughts One of the great joys of my professional life has been watching people find their way forward. Over the years, I've come to appreciate how universal the experience of feeling stuck is. Addiction, depression, debt, illness, painful relationships, or years of accumulated problems may all lead us there. The circumstances differ, but the experience is remarkably similar: we don't know how to move forward. It's a feeling that, sooner or later, all of us encounter. If there is one...
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