Every week, Dr. Justin Altschuler writes a post that provides new insight and perspective into the familiar parts of life, helping readers live a healthy, happy, meaningful life.
It Works!
When I went into the kitchen, I turned on the coffee machine and listened as whirred to life. All at the touch of a button! I pressed another button, and within a minute had a delicious cup of hot, freshly, brewed coffee, made from beans grown thousands of miles away. It was remarkable. And although you might not believe it, all of these near miracles happened within the first 5 minutes of waking up. What a morning! If this sounds like a relatively normal morning to you, it should. In fact, this is pretty much how most of my mornings look. But imagine for a second that I had been in a car accident the day before. Waking up with a functioning left wrist, right knee and pinky finger might be the furthest thing from my mind. In fact, it may be that those joints were each the source of significant pain and discomfort. Suppose I could not breathe deeply, because my lungs did not work well. Or, perhaps, the air is terrible and breathing deeply causes a fit of coughing? Suppose I turned on the faucet, and the water did not flow? I would have been beyond irritated, and immediately become preoccupied with trying to fix the problem. Why wasn't the water working? When I turned on the light, suppose the room failed to illuminate. Is the power out? The light bulb broken? Do I have to replace the switch? How long has the electricity not been working? When is it coming back? We do not generally pause to notice all the things that work. Instead, we take for granted the thousands of things that just happen without any real effort on our part, and focus on the things that do not work. There is some chipped paint on the door. The faucet handle sticks. One of the tiles has a crack. There are some leftover coffee grounds still on the counter. When the power is out, we think about little else. As soon as the power is restored, we forget about the miracle of electricity. When our leg is broken, we lament the pain and loss of mobility. As soon as the bone has mended, we take walking for granted. I do not mean to suggest that we ignore our problems, or we pretend like everything is perfect– it never is. There are always problems, always things that are broken, always items that need to be fixed, improved, changed, or adjusted. This is the nature of life. But because our minds focus on the problems, because our attention is drawn to what does not work, our attention is also, by definition, drawn away from what does work. Because our gaze lingers on the defect, it avoids the beauty that surrounds us (see this post for more). Our reminders are on all the problems, and none of the miracles. What if we paused and noticed the things that do work? It takes active effort and time to appreciate how many things are going our way. Pausing and recognizing the myriad of things that go our way every minute of every day (breathing, anyone?), we can shift our narrative away from chronically feeling less than, and towards feeling like we have enough. Try it. Take a mental inventory of everything that is working. What in your body works? Your heart? Your ears? Your knee? What, of the things that surround you, works? Your phone that you are using to read this? Your computer? The sofa you are sitting on? Is the roof over your head keeping the elements out? Your house is neither too hot nor too cold? Close your eyes for 20 seconds and just notice how many things are working. How do you feel? How would doing this daily change things? Cheers, -Dr. Justin Share Doc’s Thoughts If you enjoyed today’s newsletter, share it with your friends and family! If this email was forwarded to you, subscribe to receive them in the future! PS-- we've started some cool stories related to the newsletter on instagram. Check it out. |
Doc’s Thoughts
Every week, Dr. Justin Altschuler writes a post that provides new insight and perspective into the familiar parts of life, helping readers live a healthy, happy, meaningful life.
Doc’s Thoughts Think about the last time someone started a sentence to you (or you started by telling someone else), “I have to be honest with you…” Following that beginning, when has there ever been something said that made you feel good– or was anything other than a criticism? When we preface what we say with, “I need to be honest,” that’s basically code for this is going to suck or you are not going to want to hear this. Similarly, we use the expression, “Be honest with yourself” to denote...
Doc’s Thoughts I was recently talking to a patient who had picked up smoking again after successfully quitting. He was off cigarettes for a while, and then picked them up again during a period of high stress. He was so angry with himself. “Why the $%# would I do this to myself?” he asked me. “I know better, I hate these things, and here I am addicted again.” His reaction is understandable. We all do things that are not in our best interest, and end up in a place where we are frustrated and...
Doc’s Thoughts I’ve written before how the way we define the opposite of something defines the thing itself. When we hear that we need to be more accepting of people, or things, there’s a lot that this can mean. If the opposite of acceptance is denial, then accepting something means facing the truth, embracing reality as it actually is. If we define the opposite of acceptance as resistance, then acceptance means something much closer to surrender, or acquiescence. If we define the opposite of...