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Every week, Dr. Justin Altschuler writes a post that provides new insight and perspective into the familiar parts of life, helping readers live a healthy, happy, meaningful life.
Doc’s Thoughts We often think of giving as something intentional—gifts, advice, encouragement, or support. But we are always giving something, whether we intend to or not. Along with our words and actions, we give our emotional state, our assumptions, our fears, and our way of seeing the world to the people around us. What fills us tends to overflow. When we have cultivated patience, we are more able to offer patience. When we have developed compassion, we are more able to respond with...
Doc’s Thoughts It can feel like our lives have become exercises in improvement. We optimize our diets, our sleep, our exercise routines, our productivity, our finances, and our parenting. There is no shortage of books, podcasts, newsletters, or videos promising to help us become healthier, happier, wealthier, more productive, or more successful. If we can beat the average, not only should we, but we’d be stupid not to. This perspective has improved our lives in countless ways. Medicine is...
Doc’s Thoughts Embarrassment is the feeling of making a social mistake, it says I did something awkward. Guilt arises when we believe we have done something wrong; it says I did something bad. Healthy guilt can be useful. It points us toward making amends, repairing relationships, and changing our behavior. Shame is different, and goes deeper. It does not say, I did something wrong, but instead says something is wrong with me. The idea that something is wrong with me is deeply uncomfortable,...