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Every week, Dr. Justin Altschuler writes a post that provides new insight and perspective into the familiar parts of life, helping readers live a healthy, happy, meaningful life.
Doc’s Thoughts More than anyone else, I credit my Mom with teaching me how to write. Starting in middle school, she edited pretty much every writing assignment I had. The first draft would invariably come back covered in red ink– delete this word, turn this into the active voice, develop the idea more here. I’d revise and revise until I was satisfied, and the red ink stopped. I was a bit of a perfectionist, and I’d keep editing, moving around commas, until it was time to turn it in. To this...
Doc’s Thoughts The restriction is easy to see. The protection it offers is harder to appreciate. We focus on what we might gain by making an exception, without considering what we might lose. When we think about the reason for having rules to guide our behavior, we typically think about harm to others. Rules, in this sense, are meant broadly. They encompass actual laws, but also systems of moral values and ethics, social expectations, and beliefs about what makes a good life. They include...
Doc’s Thoughts When we fail at something that matters to us, our instinct is often to try harder. We take a deep breath, redouble our efforts, and resolve to be more focused, disciplined, or determined. This comes up when we try to improve our health, change how we relate to others, or manage our money. Sometimes we reprimand ourselves, scold ourselves, and demand that we do better. Other times, we simply resolve to try harder. In many ways, this makes sense. From a young age, we learn to...